kurthelddaveshand:

thereichenbachfinn:

Okay, you know what? I don’t like to encourage haters by replying to their asks with anything but snarky comedy, but this argument really bugs the shit out of me, and I’ll tell you why. 

Are you out of your stupid, ignorant, twisted, mother. fucking. mind? 

Did you just put a question in my askbox that contained the phrase “Suicide attempt was a power shift in his favor” without thinking there was anything wrong with it? If this had been one of those caps-lock messages that were pure spewings of hatred and rape apologist shit, I might have ignored it. But your writing is relatively eloquent, and you clearly thought it through before you hit “Ask”, which is the most alarming and disturbing thing about this message. 

So let me break it down for you.

1. A suicide attempt is in no one’s favor. No one’s. Don’t move on until you get that through your skull. 

2. Despite what you seem to think, not everything in Dave’s storyline is about Kurt. This was not a call for attention, a “maybe Kurt will feel sorry for me now” thing, it was Dave attempting to take his own life because he had tried so many things to make life better for himself, and none of it worked. His worst nightmare came true and there was nothing he could do to stop everyone from turning on him. 

3. Are you suggesting that if someone attempts suicide, they can never have a relationship that will be based on anything but pity? Even when Kurt told Dave he was sorry he hadn’t returned his calls, Dave cut him off. I’m not denying Kurt felt bad for him- that was clear. But to say even that their friendship is pity-based is something of a delusion. You’re not even worth arguing with if you can watch that hospital scene and tell me Kurt wasn’t feeling a genuine connection to Dave. I’m not even arguing that it was romantic, because I don’t think it was. But to say it never could be because Dave attempted suicide is not only disgusting, but also, for lack of a better word, stupid.

4. So much of what Dave has done- in the hallway scene, the breadstix scene, the hospital scene- it’s all been one big apology. He’s trying as hard as he fucking can to restore some sort of balance in his relationship with Kurt. While some people have to fight to get someone to see them romantically, Dave was also fighting just to be seen as a person, a human being, someone who could change and was capable of being loved.

5. Love is messed up. Please step out from the Teenage Dream bubble and join the rest of us in reality. Loving someone, romantically or not, puts you through some fucked up stuff. It hurts. And that’s because it changes you. So yes, they went through a lot of shit. More so, I’d say, than any couple on Glee has. And yet, somehow, they’ve come out on the other side, smiling, gripping each other’s hand. Knowing that two people are capable of that- of going through an intense storm of emotions and problems and horrible trials and still coming out not only in one piece, but strong and smiling because of each other- that is what a good fucking relationship is. Not skipping through life and singing love songs and praying you never encounter an obstacle. 

So there you go. I took a minute to think about what I’m shipping. Maybe you should too.

Bless everything Finn stands for.